The Gossip Effect


Building a winning culture is the subject of countless articles and interviews. It’s on everyone’s mind these days, CEOs to first-level leaders.

Something seemingly simple, but perpetually elusive is containing gossip.

Gossip is arguably the most significant contributor to a low-trust, low-productivity culture. It’s sadly easy for anyone to devolve into patterns of gossip, as it’s common in all of our lives, in homes, schools, churches, and neighborhoods. It’s all around us and often very common in every aspect of our relationships.

Leaders in organizations—or for that matter, anyone at any level—can overnight become a transition figure in their culture. Take this significant step to transform your own brand and reputation. From there, watch your own influence and trust grow on your immediate team and then across the organization.

Starting as soon as you finish this blog, commit that you will never again talk about someone behind their back. When someone comes up in conversation (via phone, text, email, or live in a face-to-face meeting), speak about them exactly as if they were standing right in front of you, looking you square in the eyes.

Easier written here than modeled in our behavior, but let’s make a commitment to each other: let’s be uber aware of our loyalty to everyone, especially those who annoy us or we generally dislike, even for well-deserved reasons. This doesn’t mean we don’t provide high-courage feedback to those in our lives, professionally and personally, or we avoid difficult conversations, or we shy away from sharing frustrations. To the contrary, have those conversations—in the presence of the particular person.

To quote Dr. Stephen R. Covey:

“When you defend those who are absent, you retain the trust of those present.”

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About the Author

Scott Miller

Scott Miller is a 25-year associate of FranklinCovey and serves as Senior Advisor, Thought Leadership. Scott hosts the world’s largest and fastest-growing podcast/newsletter devoted to leadership development, On Leadership. Additionally, Scott is the author of the multi-week Amazon #1 New Releases, Master Mentors: 30 Transformative Insights From Our Greatest Minds, Management Mess to Leadership Success: 30 Challenges to Become the Leader You Would Follow, and the Wall Street Journal bestseller, Everyone Deserves a Great Manager: The 6 Critical Practices for Leading a Team. He lives in Salt Lake City, Utah, with his wife and three sons.

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