Most of us have been taught all our lives to face our fears. Or avoid them outright.
My mother is deathly afraid of sharks. It’s a debilitating fear for her, so much so that she resisted joining my three sons and I at an aquarium because of its shark encounter. When we finally convinced her to join us, she was visibly shaken and reverted to childlike behavior when she even saw the doorway leading to the wing that contained the sharks. My mother won’t look at books that contain photos of sharks, refuses to watch television programs that involve sharks, and closes her eyes during commercials about sharks. As a joke, I once sent her a postcard with a shark on it. Got an earful after that prank!
Ask me how many encounters my mother has had with a shark. Now mind you, she’s lived in Florida for 60 years, so there are lots of sharks around.
How many sharks has she seen?
ZERO! Never touched one, seen one, or been anywhere near one (that she knows). It’s a fear she’s never faced or felt.
It’s fairly irrational given she has zero experience with sharks and doesn’t know anyone who has.
Here’s the more interesting part. I share the same fear. Completely irrational. I detest sharks so much I won’t go into the ocean above my knees. I also won’t allow my sons to either. My mother created a lifelong fear in me, and I’ve done the same, unintentionally, with my sons.
What’s your shark? A fear you’ve never faced or felt. That’s prevented you from progress, enjoyment, fulfillment.
My fear of sharks keeps me out of lakes, rivers, and oceans. Generally off boats of most kinds, certainly those in the ocean that might encounter a…dare I say it…shark.
So I’m relegated to pools. And I fear my boys will be also.
Wonder what would be different if I chose to feel the fear, and not just face it.
What am I missing in life (beyond the ocean) because I’ve not faced or felt the fear?
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